Don’t worry, there are no spoilers here! I’m talking about those times when you find yourself thinking the same old thoughts and doing the same old things. Some people liken it to playing the same old record, going round and round on a carousel, or finding themselves trapped on a downward spiral.
For some reason you find yourself in the same kind of relationship or situation wondering why it’s happening again. Other people appear to move on with their lives and get somewhere, but you feel caught in loop unable to break free. Perhaps you see yourself as a victim of circumstance and can trace back to where it all went wrong, but you feel powerless to change the pattern of your life. Or maybe you simply believe that life just happens and you seem to be experiencing a particularly long run of bad luck. You might even think it’s your destiny.
The reality is that change isn’t change until something changes. Longing for things to be different won’t make a difference. Change requires effort and it can be hard work. That’s why we tend to love routine and readily fall into habits – it’s easier. If you are serious about changing something in your life, or would value the opportunity to explore your options, why not give counselling a try?
A counsellor can help you look at things from a fresh perspective, support you as you make decisions and empower you with the resources you need to effect lasting change. You will understand yourself better and be able to identify your needs, motivation, and ambitions. A good place to start looking for a counsellor is the Counselling Directory, an online database. You’ll then be able to search for qualified counsellors in your area, and you can even tailor the search to find therapists who specialise in certain therapies or approaches, or who work with couples, families or children.